One phrase my girls and I use is: “turn the key in your heart.” I’ve personally been focused on turning the key in my heart to find ways to honor others. Giving honor to the Lord first, and then to those I come in contact with.

Several months ago, Deborah Brewer led a ladies Bible study focused on this subject. It opened my eyes to the choices we make to either give the gift of honor or dishonor. During the Bible study, Deborah asked a volunteer to join her at the front of the class and she handed her friend a gift. The recipient opened the present only to find dirt inside. Deborah said when we dishonor others, it’s like giving them the gift of…. dirt. In other words, when we show dishonor to God or others, it is hurtful, insulting, and demeaning. A moment later, another volunteer was given a gift. Again, beautifully wrapped. This time, the contents were sweet and thoughtful, representing when we honor one another. This simple exercise was powerful to me because while I know how important it is to measure my words and actions, this visual comparison will serve as a reminder of the unseen, yet lasting effects of honor… or lack of.

My grandfather once said, “If you don’t remember anything else I tell you, remember this: be the reflection of the good you see in people. Sometimes we can’t see the good in ourselves, so it’s important to tell people when you see it.” I didn’t realize it at the time, but he was helping me learn that one way of showing honor is to be a positive reflection to every soul. While there are times we must confront one another, and motherhood requires that we discipline our children, there are many opportunities to give the gift of positive feedback.

“Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good. Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves. Never be lacking in zeal, but keep your spiritual fervor, serving the Lord. Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer. Share with the Lord’s people who are in need. Practice hospitality.

Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse. Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn. Live in harmony with one another. Do not be proud, but be willing to associate with people of low position. Do not be conceited.

Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everyone. If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.”

~ Romans 12:9-18

What are some ways we can honor God and His sons and daughters? We can start by immersing ourselves in God’s written Word, obeying Him, and praising Him. While praying to our Father, we can pray for one another and find ways to uplift each other (1 Thess 5:11, Heb. 3:13). When we notice someone using their God-given gifts for Him, we can thank them for sharpening us to grow spiritually (Prov. 27:17).

I certainly have moments I’ve regretted in life, but I don’t think I’ll ever regret honoring my brothers and sisters. By being purposeful in our walk with the Lord, we can truly make a difference in this world for Him.  One word, one action, one moment at a time. Let’s be gift-givers of honor this week!